"30"

By: Chelsea Baradas

I, as a person, am not attracted to someone because of their looks. It is always attitude that matters when getting into a relationship with someone. They have to be kind, nice , honest and have a good sense of humour. My ideal courting phase would begin with him slowly getting closer to me as  a friend first. He should try to get to know me as a person, as a friend before we would go any further. He will prove that he’s trustworthy and then I will begin to open up to him about my life and he would do the same.

Somehow, we are gonna begin to date as couple. With both of us being there for each other when we have our highs and lows.On each others birthdays, we would surprise each other with food and many corny jokes. They would be filled with laughter and joy. He would enjoy music the way I do, or at least pretend to, and humour me when I’m in one of my singing moods and sing with me, no matter how terrible our voices may be. And I would also learn to enjoy whatever hobby he loves, may it be sports, comic books, video games,etc. I would make an effort to enjoy them as well.

Like all couples, we will fight. But at the end of the day, at the end of all the arguing and crying we will figure things out because our relationship will be stronger than any fight that we would have. Our relationship would be able to last and it would come out stronger. Though we would be a couple the friendship would still remain, and he would always be one of my best friends. Because before we even got together, we were friends first and friends we would always be, no matter what. We would able to tell if the other is truly alright with one look because we would know each other that well.

After many years, after college we would move in together. Even though we may be both be tired and cranky by the time we would get home, we would still make the effort to smile. I would cook for the both of us while he would wash the dishes. On the weekends, we would make and effort to do the laundry and keep the house clean. We would also watch many tv shows together as well as movies.

After few years, he would propose to me. He would do it in the sweetest and most unique way he could think of and I would say “Yes,” and probably start crying see as he understands that deep inside I am a real softie. Then we would get married maybe a year or months after, nothing too grand and fancy.

By the time we would be 30, I would give birth to my first child. We wouldn’t really care for because we would love our child no matter what. We may still fight when we would be married but as we would when we were dating, we could resolve and come out stronger. A few years after my first child I would give birth to the next one and we would still treat him or her with all the love and care we did with the first child. We would probably have a third child as well. 

As parents, we would treat our children with all the love and care in the world. We would encourage them to be the best they can always be and how to stand up for themselves. We would encourage them to develop any of the skills they are interested in. We would try to be the best parents we could possibly be. 

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When given the task to write about your version of the ideal marriage and courting/dating phase it’s not really the easiest thing to do. Especially when you become parents because when you do you are no longer thinking just for yourself but for your children lives as well. I’m not sure what the future holds for me regarding this topic but I hope and pray that it would end well. It doesn't really matter if my ideal version really happens, it just matters that what the God has planned for me.